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Dealing With An Attacker
to do if you are attacked or assaulted.
originally presented during a seminar provided by a local police
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Five steps to being prepared:
1. Understand that your only goal
thing you should be concerned with during any kind of attack, is the
survival and well being of you and/or your loved ones. If you
accomplish this, then you were smart and handled the situation well.
2. Know your abilities and
Be realistic about
what you will and will not be able to do during an attack.
For example, if you have not studied martial arts
extensively, don't think that you are going to use some "karate moves"
on your attacker. Television and the movies are not real life!
3. Learn to recognize the three
types of situations.
Attacker wants property
Attacker wants control
4. Develop a plan for how you
will handle each of these situations ahead of time.
try to figure it out when the situation arises. Prepare NOW.
5. Practice your plan well ahead
If you practice enough ahead
of time, your mind will automatically know what to do if the need
First kind of attack:
Attacker wants property (car, money, credit cards, belongings, etc.)
type of attacker plans poorly and is generally very jumpy and
nervous. They are most often inexperienced at
committing a robbery and tend to overreact. Follow these
guidelines when dealing with an attacker who wants your money, valuables or belongings:
It's not easy, but try to appear calm.
The more nervous you seem, the more nervous the attacker will be.
very slowly and deliberately. Any quick or unexpected
movement on your part is likely to elicit a quick and potentially
violent response from the attacker.
reassure the attacker to help keep him calm. In as calm a
voice as you can manage, tell the attacker exactly what you are doing
step-by-step as you do it. For example “OK,
I’m taking out my wallet and placing it on the hood of the
car. Now I’m going to back away so you can pick it
Give the attacker the property he is
after. Remember, the only goal is survival and no property is
worth the life of yourself or a loved one. If possible, try
not to hand the property to the attacker directly. The close
proximity can make an already nervous attacker even more
nervous. Set the property down and slowly back away so the
attacker can pick it up.
At this point, you may
attempt to negotiate, but only if called for. For example:
“OK, you can have the car. And I”ll tell
you what; if you please let me get my kids out of the back seat before
you take the car, I’ll toss my purse on the front seat and
give you the PIN number for my bank cards.”
while you are shopping, an attacker decides he wants your car, he may
put paper or some other item on the windshield or back window of your
vehicle while you are in the store. When you return, you will
most likely enter and start your car, notice the object on your window, then step out of the car to
remove it. At this
time, you are vulnerable, the keys are in the car, the doors
are unlocked, and the engine is running. Everything the
attacker wants! Be careful not to fall for this trick.
Carefully move the car to a different location with plenty of other
people around before getting out to remove the paper or whatever item has been placed on the car.
be extra careful if there is a van, SUV, or other large vehicle parked
next to yours. Large vehicles block other people from seeing an
attack, and a large vehicle is easier to force you into.
Second kind of attack: Attacker
wants control (assault, beatings, rape, torture, intimidation, etc.)
type of attacker generally seeks specific types of targets; usually people who appear to lack confidence or
who appear fearful. The attacker is looking for someone who is
easy to approach and control. Control attackers are generally
very aware of their surroundings and have usually already planned an
escape route for themselves. Most often, the attacker is
someone who knows who you are. It may be someone you know
well, or someone you met very briefly. You may not even remember
them, but they remember you. This type of attacker uses fear,
intimidation and physical assault to control his victim. When
dealing with a control attacker, follow these guidelines:
be aware of your surroundings. This may help you spot trouble
before it even happens. Walk/move deliberately and
confidently so you don’t look like an easy target.
Keep your head up, shoulders back and continuously glance around at your surroundings. If you are already
uneasy about a situation, have any weapon you may possess already in
your hand–don’t wait until you need it.
This includes such weapons as pepper spray, keys, pen,
sharp object, etc. A large part of the effects of CS teargas
and mace are psychological in nature, so avoid these
weapons. Pepper spray provides a severe,
physical reaction and is the best choice.
don't think that a cell phone will keep you safe! Even if you
happened to be on the phone with the police at the time of the attack,
how long would it take the police to get there? Three
minutes...five minutes...fifteen minutes? How long does it take
to stab you, shoot you, or crack your skull? A few seconds?
Besides, it is generally quite easy for an attacker to forcibly remove
the phone from your hands when the attack starts. You talking on
a cell phone might convince the attacker to look for an easier target,
but it might not. A woman thinking her cell phone offers her
protection from an attack is just giving herself a false sense of
security which could make her careless and more of a target.
Don't forget that a control attacker is often someone who knows
who you are and has specifically chosen you to be his victim--a cell
phone cannot be counted on to stop him. Bottom line: a cell phone
is NOT protection from a control attacker!
possible, change your routine, destination or direction to avoid a
potential attacker. Doing the exact same thing at the exact
same time on a regular basis makes it too easy to plan an attack
If the attacker can’t be
avoided, then take charge yourself. Do something totally
unexpected to disrupt the attacker’s plans.
Remember, the control attacker generally has a well-laid-out
plan. If his plan is disrupted, he might fear that he is
going to lose control of the situation and so choose to break off the attack. The
sooner you can interrupt the attacker’s plans, the better
chance you have of him giving up on you. Don’t be
afraid to do something totally crazy; in fact, the more bizarre your
behavior, the better chance it has of working. Some example
are: laughing as loudly as you can, acting like some kind of
animal, throwing your belongings all over the place, throwing your
purse/backpack through the glass of a nearby window, urinate, defecate,
vomit, anything crazy you can manage to do.
with a control attacker, look directly at him, but do
not maintain a stare into his eyes since the attacker may see this as a challenge.
the attacker. If
you submit, you are just making it easier for him to control
you. Never get into a vehicle voluntarily. As soon as you do, you
have pretty much given the attacker complete control of what
happens to you. You are generally better off risking being shot at or
stabbed than to get into a vehicle with an attacker. You might think
you will get into the vehicle for now and find a way to escape
the attacker later, but statistically, you will be unable to get away
later. If you choose to
resist by physically fighting back, then make sure your attack will
momentarily blind or disable your attacker giving you a chance to
escape. An attack that does not give you a moment to escape
only serves to anger the attacker and further aggravate the situation.
If you can’t temporarily blind or disable your
attacker, then physically fighting back may not be the best option for
you unless you have tried everything else and have no other
choice. A failed physical attack might be seen as a challenge to
the attacker. Ways to blind/disable might include: pepper
spray, a very hard strike to the nose which causes pain and a few
seconds of blindness, poking or gouging the eyes, a strong kick to the
knee, stomping on the instep to break a bone in his foot. DO
NOT attempt a kick or punch to the groin. Unless you have
considerable self defense training, the testicles can be a
difficult target to hit effectively in an attack situation and men are
generally very adept at protecting that part of their bodies.
physical attack you decide to use, hit very hard with everything you
can muster on your very first try. Humans tend to hold back
on their first strike to sort of "test the water"
for a response from the opponent. Hitting hard on your first
attempt adds one more unexpected element to your attacker’s
plans, and may even give him the impression that you were holding back
and the next hit will be even harder. An FBI study showed
that most attacks are stopped by a single, strong move or
response. Don’t forget that if you are behind the
wheel of a car when accosted, a car makes a very effective
weapon. If your life is in danger, don’t be afraid to use that weapon.
you have children with you, tell them to run. Teach them this
response ahead of time as well as how to find help once they have
escaped the situation.
If the attacker is
someone you know, or he knows you are able to identify him, the risk to
your own life and safety goes up considerably. In these
cases, apply all of the techniques you have learned, and fight back with everything you’ve got!
In this, or
any other kind of attack, do not yell "help," "rape," or anything along these lines.
Yelling these things actually has the effect of driving help away from
you. People don’t want to get hurt or get involved
so they are more likely to avoid you than to assist
you. Instead, yell ‘fire’ which arouses
curiosity and actually brings people toward you since many people would
want to see the fire.
If bystanders are refusing to
assist, then address one of them directly and specifically and instruct
them to go call 911. For example "hey, you with the
red baseball cap, go call 911." Doing this makes them a part
of the situation rather than just an observer of it; thus, they are
much more likely to do as requested and offer assistance.
Third kind of attack: Road-rage
is often an unplanned attack carried out in anger and
frustration. The attacker doesn’t want property or
control, he or she just wants to "make you pay" for
whatever wrong he or she feels that you committed against
them. During a road-rage attack, follow these
Slow down considerably and maintain that
speed. The attacker will often rather move on than slow down
to continue the attack. Also, at a slower speed, it is much
harder to get you to do something careless or to run you off the
road. On a freeway, try to slow down to around 40
MPH if it is safe to do so.
Do not yell, call names, make
insulting gestures or drive aggressively. Avoid eye contact with the attacker. Remember, your goal is to survive
uninjured, and all you want is for the attack to end. Responding with anger
only escalates the situation and can even cause you yourself to go from
road-rage victim to road-rage attacker.
the attacker passes you in anger, quickly slow down as he passes you and then maintain a
distance. This makes the attacker more likely to just keep
going rather than confronting you, and prevents him from causing an accident by intentionally
slamming on his breaks in front of you, which is a common tactic of road-rage attackers.
down or take a mental note of the attackers info such as license
plate, make of car, model of car, color of car, or at least pretend to
do so. Make
it obvious that you are taking down his information even if you are
only pretending to do so. Pretending to call for help on a cell
phone, or anything that looks like one, often works as well. Often, just appearing to be taking down the
information, or calling for help, will often cause the
road-rage attacker to give up and move on.
you feel you are actually in immediate danger, use your
cell phone to call for help. Also, drive to a
manned police station or fire station. If neither of these is
available, then drive calmly and deliberately to a very crowded place
such as a busy parking lot. Be sure to pull your car right up in
front of the doors and in people’s way so you cannot be
missed. If the attacker has followed you to one of these
locations, honk your horn continuously as you arrive to attract
DO NOT drive home. If you do, you
are actually less safe than you were on the road since you would still have
to exit the relative safety of the car to get into the
house. Also, you would be letting the attacker know where you
barriers that may allow your attacker to
block you in. This includes barriers such as other vehicles,
buildings, walls, parking barriers, construction barriers and parking
garages. Do everything you can to make sure that you have a way
to avoid getting boxed in and trapped. Always leaving yourself
room to maneuver your car and leave, should be part of your everyday
Carrying a cell phone cannot be counted upon to keep you safe.
many people think that carrying a cell phone helps to protect them from
a violent, physical attack. Especially if you're a woman, believing that
a cell phone protects you against a physical or sexual assault, can be
very, very dangerous. Below is an excerpt from my eBook Economic Disaster: What the average person can do to prepare. Please read this information about physical and sexual assault, and pass the information along to others.
cell phone offers very little protection if you are assaulted or
attacked. I sometimes have great difficulty convincing people of
this, especially women who feel much safer with a cell phone in their
hand. Yes, a cell phone can be used to summon help, but that help
will need time to get there. If you are being attacked, you do
not have that time. A cell phone is easily knocked or forced from
your hand and, during a disaster, might not even be able access
To help you understand how useless a cell phone
actually is if you are attacked, let us look at a hypothetical
situation. You are a woman walking to your car at night all
alone. You are on your cell phone talking to your boyfriend who
is a powerful, 250 pound linebacker for his college football team, and
you feel so much safer having him on the phone. A tough-looking
man steps out in front of you and you know immediately that his
intentions are not good. You tell your boyfriend that a man is
blocking you from getting to your car and you are scared. Your
boyfriend says he is on his way, runs out of the house, gets in his
car, and is rushing to where you are. He is only three minutes
away. Meanwhile, your attacker punches you hard in the face
sending you to the ground. He knocks the phone from your hand and
repeatedly kicks you in the head until your skull is fractured and you
are unconscious. He takes your purse, your cell phone, your
engagement ring and runs away. Only two minutes have passed since
the whole thing started. It takes another minute for your
boyfriend to finally arrive. By the time your boyfriend is on the
scene, the only thing he can do for you, is call for an ambulance.
really understand the futility of trying to use a cell phone for
protection from an attacker, go ahead and time two minutes to see how
long that really is. If you take a pillow and beat on it fiercely
for two minutes as if you are an attacker beating a victim, I think you
will see what I am trying to tell you. Even if you look at an
unrealistic, best-case scenario, the cell phone still proves virtually
worthless. Let us say you are actually already on the phone with
the police when the attacker appears. It is still going to take
the police time to get there. Five minutes would be a very, very
good response time and that is still more than the time it took the
boyfriend in our example to arrive. A cell phone is a wonderful
tool if your car breaks down, you are locked out of your vehicle,
locked out of your home or you need medical care—but it is of almost no
use during a physical attack. For your own safety, please
convince yourself, and those you love, that a cell phone is pretty much
useless in any kind of physical attack.
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